In which I list my answers to a challenge I posed to my 101-blogging friends.
I found this challenge an interesting exercise. I really had to focus in order to phrase things so that I was expressing what I wanted, not what I didn’t want. The “don’t wants” still slip in, but I’ve tried to present them as alternatives to illustrate my points. I also had trouble isolating things that I wanted for myself rather than how I wanted to be perceived by others.
…to live in a home that fits the best of us.
I want to create a home that fit us in all of our best ways, that reflects us in our best light. I want a home that is lived in, not a showroom, but one that is clean and organized enough so that I or visitors never really notice.
I want the decorations we display to go reflect our personalities and be interesting to visitors. (I think we are hitting that best in our guest room right now.) I want to feel like everything fits.
I want a home that is full of music and dancing. When we are at our best, we dance to oldies while cooking or play music during dinner. The first weekend I met my parents-in-law, we were making a huge number of Christmas cookies. The hubs and I were working in the kitchen, and he was singing “Brand New Key,” which we’d discovered on vinyl earlier. It is a happy memory. I want my home to be the kind of place that supports happy memories.
… to feel awesome.
I want to be generally healthy and not skimp on taking care of myself when needed — physically, mentally, or emotionally.
I want to love my clothes and accessories, and I want to revel in my style. I love when the hubs points something out because it looks like a dress I would love — and I love when he is right.
I want to have a higher level of happiness be my day-to-day baseline. I want to laugh. I want to focus on the fun that I am having in any given moment and give it equal time, thought, and energy that I give to my worries.
I want to live without second guessing my choices and actions. I generally think about things before I make a big decision, I want to make it and walk away from it in my mind.
…to have routines that support but not restrict me.
I want to maintain my house and my responsibilities so that they do not overwhelm me. I want to work a little bit regularly rather than lose a whole day to a chore put off too long.
I want my routines to support me so I can be flexible to jump on unexpected opportunities. I want to change our dinner plans on a whim because a happy hour is calling my name. I want to make a decision without worrying that I’m forgetting something.
… to be active and present in my life.
I want to have something to look forward to each day. I want to enjoy looking forward to it, even if it is small.
I want to organize my time with a sense of purpose rather than letting time trickle away in actions I am indifferent toward. I want to feel like I advanced a goal each day.
I want to be mindful of the moments I am experiencing.
I want to pursue my interests, whether they be passions or passing fancies.
I want to take control of my moods. I want to develop tactics to improve bad days and fend off inertia.
… to live broadly.
I want to add to any conversation I am in. Even if I can’t contribute new information, I can listen well and contribute to the exchange. I want to stretch my strengths rather than indulge my insecurities.
I want to read widely, travel and explore, create. I want to try new things and maintain comfortable favorites in whatever balance resonates at the time without comparing my balance to anyone else’s.
I want to have events, opinions, and live a life worth sharing.
Interested in what the others had to say? Check out Katie W.’s answer to my challenge here.